Imagine a child who is home from school one day. She decides that she wants to surprise her mother and bake a cake. She knows her mother comes home exhausted from work every day, and, as she loves her mother, she wants to have a delicious cake awaiting her return home. However, she has no experience baking. She succeeds in getting ingredients all over the kitchen, but there is no cake to be found. When her mother arrives and sees the kitchen covered in flour and sugar her reaction will be to become angry with her out of control daughter. All she can see is a house turned upside-down.
There are two ways to calm the mother's anger. One is for her to come before her mother looking all despondent and expressing regret for filthying the kitchen. This may soften the mother's anger, but the kitchen remains recognizably messy. Another approach is that long with the despondence and regret she can explain to her mother that she was trying to make her mother happy my making her a gift to show her love. Yes, she wasn't successful, and instead of a cake there is a mess, but her actions were emanating from a place of love.
This will increase the mother's love for her daughter and completely remove her anger. On the contrary, it will lead her to wanting to draw closer to her daughter. The mess has been transformed into something beautiful when it is viewed in a deeper manner. If you only look at the messy kitchen it will remain a mess forever. The mess cannot be transformed into something different. But if the mother looks at it deeper then her relationship with the mess is something else. Yeah. the mess isn't good. She will have to teach her daughter how to bake and how to clean up after herself. But this will all be done from a perspective of love and closeness.
If we approach Hashem by just saying "I'm sorry," we are hoping that the Middas HaChesed can overcome the Middas HaDin. But those are two separate Middos, and chesed cannot transform din. But if we get inside the actions, at the deepest will that drives us, even our most corrupt behaviors, then we can come to Hashem and show Him that everything we have done was really out of love and a desire to be closer to Him. This awakening of the deepest recesses of the Din will sweeten it and turn it into something beuatiful.
There are two ways to calm the mother's anger. One is for her to come before her mother looking all despondent and expressing regret for filthying the kitchen. This may soften the mother's anger, but the kitchen remains recognizably messy. Another approach is that long with the despondence and regret she can explain to her mother that she was trying to make her mother happy my making her a gift to show her love. Yes, she wasn't successful, and instead of a cake there is a mess, but her actions were emanating from a place of love.
This will increase the mother's love for her daughter and completely remove her anger. On the contrary, it will lead her to wanting to draw closer to her daughter. The mess has been transformed into something beautiful when it is viewed in a deeper manner. If you only look at the messy kitchen it will remain a mess forever. The mess cannot be transformed into something different. But if the mother looks at it deeper then her relationship with the mess is something else. Yeah. the mess isn't good. She will have to teach her daughter how to bake and how to clean up after herself. But this will all be done from a perspective of love and closeness.
If we approach Hashem by just saying "I'm sorry," we are hoping that the Middas HaChesed can overcome the Middas HaDin. But those are two separate Middos, and chesed cannot transform din. But if we get inside the actions, at the deepest will that drives us, even our most corrupt behaviors, then we can come to Hashem and show Him that everything we have done was really out of love and a desire to be closer to Him. This awakening of the deepest recesses of the Din will sweeten it and turn it into something beuatiful.
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