Quashing the Childish Klipah

When a kernel of grain is growing the shell covering it cannot be removed. At this stage the klipah (shell) protects the grain and its ability to ripen. This teaches us an important principle, there are klipos of the soul that are there to facilitate its growth, and we must take heed not to try and remove them before their time or in an inappropriate manner. Doing so is likely to damage the development of the child's positive traits, that which is within, the fruit itself.
The klipos are the traits that appear in a manner that does not appear to be directed towards appropriate channels. We find children who are full of energy, that are not naturally drawn to expressing themselves in ways that are good and proper. The job of directing them down a good path, that of teaching them how to select the appropriate behavior to separate the good traits from the klipos and direct them on the right path, has to await the growth of the child into a healthy and strong person, only then can he be purified. Trying to separate them from their klipos before they are mature is likely to harm their unique abilities and their perfection. It can create a weak person who is lacking life, as the effort to show them the right path is full of criticism. If the parents criticize the child a lot as he is developing, they are likely to squash his good traits and ruin his fundamental will power.
Therefore, first we must show a child a lot of faith in his goodness, love and strength, so that he develops happy and healthy even as some of his character is drawn to that which is impure. That's all part of growing up. if the parents attempt to rip away the bad character by force, they will stunt his development, and weaken him internally.
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Childish Adults

Every person has countless dreams and aspirations, but in order to succeed it is necessary to limit oneself at any given time to one thing and to focus on it. If the person is constantly overwhelmed with many desires he will be unable to fulfill any of them completely. The middah of gevurah directs a person to choose a defined objective, to focus upon it, to begin it and to make the effort to completely finish it and not to jump from project to project. Chesed cannot impact the world without gevurah to constrain it. Chesed can spread its wings in the spiritual realm where there is no need for limitation, and one can spread his wings to fly to limitless worlds, however, this world requires gevurah. In a dream one can desire many things, but practically there is a need to choose, to focus, to prioritize, i.e. to limit oneself.
The bottom line is that gevurah actualizes the greatest dreams. Without it and all that it entails, sticking to a schedule, following a program, focus, giving up on distracting temptations, stubbornness, one cannot rise in holiness. Chesed is the dreams, the great lights, but without vessels, without gevurah they cannot come to fruition.
But even with all of the focus of gevurah it is vital not to lose the freedom of chesed, the sweetness of dreams and broad ambition. In a certain respect childhood is the age of simple chesed, full of love and sweetness, before the person enters the complications and limitations of this world. This is why children are so full of sweetness, joy, and laughter because the bitterness of life has not touched and soiled them.
Adulthood, bagrut in Hebrew, carries the same root as gevurah, and is the age in which a person adds gevurah to his repertoire as he recognizes the limitations of life and acquires the tools to progress in life. Adulthood needs to serve the light of childhood and not to exchange childhood for adulthood. A person needs to remain a child in spirit and to never age. It is important to take heed to not be so impressed with his relationship with vessels and the complications of this world, to think that the simplicity of childhood is naivete and weakness. A person should not feel that adulthood is the time to awaken from the slumber of childhood.
The fact is that childhood is the wellspring of life and sweetness of the dreams, the simple chesed and love and adulthood clothes that in vessels that enables it to come to the world. But be careful not to exchange the light with the vessel, childhood for adulthood and optimism for pessimism.